Do you make plans for next month, next year? My father-in-law often said, after he turned eighty, “I’m so old now, I don’t buy green bananas any more.”
My mother, like my grandmother, never liked to talk of plans for the future. If she did, she stated what she would do and added, “Please, God.” The possibility she wouldn't make it to the event was always on Mom's mind and she prayed God would help her fulfill any plan she did make. I am not accustomed to older people in my life openly discussing their plans without thoughts of death lurking nearby.
At this time in our lives, as my husband and I settle into our senior years, we would like to have a realistic, though positive outlook for the future. We’d like to live in the present and enjoy every experience and continue to make realistic plans for our future.
We have friends who are eighty this year and who make plans. Hiltrud and Carlo
just recently completed their second road trip in less than a year across Canada, driving from the Maritimes to British Columbia. They have plans to visit their birthplace in Germany again next year. They adapt to life and keep going.
Last year they moved from Prince Edward Island to Nova Scotia. They downsized, moved into an apartment, and started over in a new city. They are socially active, engaged citizens with active lifestyles. On their recent visit to Prince Edward Island, we met on the boardwalk as they did their morning bike ride. They have the energy and enthusiasm of much younger people. They see a future for themselves, rather than the end of a journey and they keep planning.
Carlo recently celebrated his birthday and Hiltrud will this fall. Happy birthday to two great role models. We aspire to be as active as you for as long as you, to live every day and to continue to make plans.
And since I am my mother’s daughter, there is a tiny voice which echos in my brain, "Please God.”